Saturday, April 23, 2016

romantic love

Lewis talks about romantic love today in A Year with C.S. Lewis.

He tells us about his love for his wife, Joy. He describes how the way she related to him in his life was more than just as the role of wife and lover. That she was like his best friend, his mom, his daughter... even his "male friend" all rolled into one.

And if you are married or have been in a long term relationship, you know how that is. Lewis says that if they hadn't been married, they would have been together all the time anyway, and would have caused a scandal. That's how it is when you're in love, as you probably know. You want to be with the other person all of the time. You feel incomplete without them. And this is a good thing. God created us to need one another. He said that it's not good for man to be alone. We're designed to live in community.

But an interesting thing, I think, from his reading today was the bit about masculine versus feminine attributes. As a society, we tend to discourage men from what we call "feminine" tasks, like knitting or cooking. We've changed in the last 100 years or so, and we're more accepting of men who like to cook and women who want to hunt or work in an office. But there's still a tendency to discourage.

Let's encourage one another to find the calling that God has given them, and give them the tools they need to do those things.

And let's be grateful to our creator for giving us the gift of romantic love.

God, thank You for making us the way we are - needing one another.

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